Why men have affairs?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from ancient times. Extramarital affairs can be loaded with troubles, cause sadness, and other troubles. Plus you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness matter, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, married date.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are people seeking affairs. I am sure mainly though it is only the human nature, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us flee the real world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody are able to switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will beat their worries and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your relatives or anybody else? You will need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest group, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfy in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your money are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex performance, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the man is sexually neglecting his woman for a tones of reasons. As a male I truly am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is disappeared, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have simply grown separately, our ordinary concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.